Surely one of the commonest areas that wives need their husband’s guidance is in taking care of their responsibilities. He is going to decide on what some of them are, and he is going to give her some rules in getting them done. He’s going to set some deadlines with matters. Dismissing her responsibilities, and simple procrastination is the most common reason that wives get spanked in many households, and it is in mine as well. A husband should be aware of what his wife’s tasks are, and should be there to review them and make sure they get done. This is a simply supervisory job, but it still requires his awareness, decision making, and involvement in his wife’s work.
While I do not recommend practicing micromanagement, you need to make sure your wife’s work is done correctly, within your rules, and within a reasonable time frame. You may give her instructions in them, and reminders. In my own home, I overlook my wife’s schooling of our children, her purchases for the family, her responsibilities with her clothing and the children’s, and a variety of tasks I may have given her myself. I sometimes have her assist me in research, and I also occasionally give her extra activities to do with the children. She has responsibilities in the garden as well, and in cooking and cleaning. While I trust my wife and consider her to be generally responsible and mature, I still fulfill my responsibility by making sure she gets her work done, and that it’s done correctly. My wife knows very well that I do not accept procrastination or negligence. She handles a lot on her own, but she understands she is ultimately answerable to me.
One matter of importance is to know that you do not merely passively watch over your wife’s work. You are there to adjust things if you have to. If there is a failing, or something which needs to work better, you can tell her to do her work differently. If you need to put some extra guide rails on her projects, you can do so at any time. You don’t need to be making all the daily decisions for her, since that is her job, but you should be responsible to make those adjustments which are important. For example, I have several times during our marriage changed our standards of dress. That will affect how or where she does her shopping. I have also changed decisions on which businesses we buy from, and that requires she change her routine a little. I have changed the spending limits on projects before as well. While this does not require heavy involvement myself on a personal level, it does require I be aware of what is going on, and give instructions to my wife in her work when it is necessary.
Managing your wife’s responsibilities is a good arena for a regular period of review. This may be weekly, or less often. A wife can go through review by presenting her work to her husband; what she has to do, along with what she has gotten done. He can assure that everything is getting done this way, and also deal with any individual matters which simply require a verbal correction. He can go over future responsibilities he may have for her at the same time. It will help keep a wife on point with her work and also be a valuable reminder of her submission to her husband. It will remind her that she is under him in all that she does, and give her a chance to experience further his teaching to her, along with his admonition or encouragement. Usually when I have had a review period with my wife it goes well. It helps me be in touch with what she is doing, and I always end by praising her in her work, and by assuring her of my confidence in her.
Failure in getting her work done is further a husband’s responsibility to correct. I do not recommend punishment for smaller failings, or passing forgetfulness. This happens to everyone. Moreover, when responsibilities pile up, it is impossible to get all of them done, and anyone will have to push the ones of lower priority back a little. This is understandable. I let my wife know if it is absolutely necessary to move something back, she should ask me about it and explain why. I usually have no problem with it. However, if a wife is simply ignoring her responsibility, or procrastinating continually with a job, she should be punished. This is completely unacceptable. I also find that continually ignoring a task ventures into the territory of disrespect for her husband, since she is more brazenly ignoring his words. It is a statement which says she does not care what he has told her to do, and she does not have to listen. In cases of such continual procrastination, I give a more severe spanking, and teach a memorable lesson in respect. My words are not ones she can ignore.
Spankings for procrastination can bring very quick results. The things she has to change are tangible, and she can usually take care of them quickly. When I spank for matters of irresponsibility, I see my wife respond by getting her work done, and doing it to my satisfaction. There is little more satisfying than seeing a problem solved so thoroughly and so quickly. I sometimes will tell her after her spanking that she has until the end of the week, or the end of several days, to finish the work. If she does not, she will get a second spanking. I have never had to give her a second one, and I am pleased to see her get to work as I told her. A spanking always helps a wife take her husband’s words more seriously, and respond to them more quickly. They are very helpful on a practical level, especially when it comes to her work.
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