In many homes spanking are used for more than a punishment. They can serve a variety of purposes in training, some of which I have discussed before when it comes to training or “maintenance” discipline. One further use, which might fit into the umbrella of training, is a preemptive use: that means you give a spanking before the problem occurs, if a possible fall into temptation is near. This means that a situation may be approaching in which a wife has repeatedly been disobedient, and she is spanked as a warning or reminder to be in good behavior coming up. It helps her keep her husband’s will on her mind, and helps her remember the consequences of failure.
I have never given spankings for this purpose, but if a problem is recurring, I certainly see its usefulness. Any spanking can put a wife firmly back into an attitude of submissiveness, and reverence for her husband. This will be especially useful if a situation which might cause her to fall is coming up soon. She will be more likely to maintain the right attitude, and pass through any hurdles without repeating her misbehavior. It is essentially a reminder.
Naturally, the need for a reminder can be motivated by a variety of situations. A wife who has been repeatedly ignoring her husband’s spending limits may be given a reminder spanking before she has major shopping to do. A wife who has been disrespectful in particular social situations, such as around friends or family, may be helped by a spanking before a gathering occurs. If she has misused alcohol, a spanking may help her retain self-control when a get-together is coming where alcohol will be served. A wife who has been skipping out on some of her household duties would benefit from a spanking at the start of the week, to make sure she gets everything done.
Like other kinds of maintenance, or non-punishment spanking, preemptive spankings do not need to be as hard as ones for punishment. Some would insist they must not be as hard. The purpose is not to punish a wrong (in some instances that has already been done), but to provide an immanent reminder, reaffirm her submission and respect for her husband, and provide her a stronger connection to her man. That connection itself will keep those things fully in her mind. In this, it will help steer her away from temptation when it approaches soon. It is a stinging reminder over her husband’s knee, and her backside need not be sore for very long.
A woman who is receiving a spanking is saying: I belong to you, sir. My body belongs to you. You are my lord and I serve you. I am yours and I want to please you. I want to do right and fulfill everything you say. This deep expression and powerful experience has uses beyond punishing a past wrong. It builds up the bond of marriage, and it leads a woman more deeply in her walk in submission. Putting herself fully in this place, while frightening in the moment, is a gift to marriage and the home. When she is walking with a full knowledge of her man’s will, of her belonging to him, she is more likely to walk uprightly. She is more likely to have what she needs to do present on her mind, and avoid falling this time.
Learning submission is not so easy for all. It’s not unusual for bad attitudes to be recurring, and this can lead to frustration as well, for both husband and wife. For this reason, this form of reminder can prove useful. If any of our readers have used preemptive spankings, and can express how they work, I’d be interested in hearing, since I’ve never given them myself. I do find them appropriate if there is a clear reason to use them due to an ongoing problem.
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