What rituals do you use during your discipline session?
I will use 1, 2, 3 (some of the time), 4, 7 (a gag sometimes), 9, and 10 (if I am spanking her OTK I always pat my leg a few times before she gets into position)
2. Corner time before spanking her in most cases.
4. Yes Sir.
5. She is generally naked. I am not.
6. She strips naked when told.
10. Afterwards, I hold her and then kiss her.
2. Corner time after – usually 20 minutes with possibility of more time added
3. Brings him the instrument – either the hairbrush or paddle; for belt/strap, unbuckle/remove from his pants, folds in half and hands to him
4. Says Yes Sir loudly and clearly, along with answering any question asked
6. She or he uncovers her bottom before the spanking – varies: if in a big hurry, he flips up skirt, yanks down panties and while going over his knee. Otherwise, I have to bare my own bottom and go over his knee or back of a chair or sofa.
9. She thanks him for the spanking – is required and a couple times when my verbal thank you was felt to be insincere, I had to write a formal thank you note which was then posted on the refrigerator.
10. Another ritual (please explain) – having to make an apology to someone I may have offended or write a formal apology to them; if sass, back talk, are involved then mouth is washed;
2,3,4,5,6,8,9,
10 – forgiveness hug, kissing her freshly spanked bum softly afterwards to soothe the sting away…. and depending on when in the day and where the spanking was given, that her spanked red bottom still be made visible to me… this can be done simply by her staying bottomless (in the house) for another hour or the rest of the night, or her being made to carefully (ensuring no one else sees) lift her skirt/dress, lower her panties for me in an ‘enclosed but public’ space (parking lot, store dressing room, hallway of a hotel, restaurant bathroom) to show me how the reddness persists or is slowly fading away
2. Corner time both before and after
6. He uncovers me or orders me to uncover myself
9. Thanking him for the discipline
10. the MOST important part of discipline – PRAYING together at the end.
Thank you for your comment, Darcy. Prayer is important in everything we do, including discipline.
3,5,6 and 10 the most important
Aftercare!
Thank you for sharing, Sally.
Ours would be 1, 2, 4, 8-(sometimes), 9, 10
10 is that generally after a discipline he will hold me, let me cry it out and then remind me that I belong to him. That is punctuated throughout the day when at anytime I am asked to turn around or place my hands on the counter for inspection. It’s humbling, but a good reminder of who is in charge.
2,4,6,7 sometimes. But corner time is not just sitting or standing in a corner for me. I have to either have my arms out like a T, arms straight up while kneeling or standing, wall sit or arms up holding books.
Sure, that’s more like a punishment in itself. Stress positions.
1 and 4 are routine within our marriage, not just during those difficult times when I must receive correction. I very much enjoy calling my husband “Sir,” and he’s delivered both loving praise and stern lectures while I’ve knelt at his feet. However, he has been merciful during the last trimester of each of my pregnancies when I’ve had trouble lowering myself to my knees and then rising to my feet once again.
6 is an essential part of every punishment I’ve ever received at my husband’s hand. Typically, he does this himself, but sometimes he’ll order me to do it. It’s harder than you might think to bare your own skin for the belt, and on those nights, my tears begin falling right away.
8 has been an occasional requirement. I don’t enjoy it, but I understand that it helps maintain my focus and demonstrate my obedience.
9 is required of me multiple times. Right after, it is said more out of obedience than anything else, but later, when I have calmed, it is a more genuine and loving expression of gratitude. At that time, I am expected to say more about what I have learned and how my punishment will motivate me to change my behavior. I will usually repeat this several times in the days that follow, sometimes at my husband’s direction and sometimes simply because I’m enjoying the immense relief from guilt and shame, basking in his love and forgiveness.
Much of 10 is intensely private, but always filled with the love, forgiveness, and prayer that help us to reconnect as man and wife. They help him to restore me back into his good graces as the woman he dearly loves and has claimed as his own.
The one ritual I can share is writing my husband a letter of contrition in which I apologize for my sins and explain exactly how I alone earned the spanking I was dealt. That might take me a day or two, but I read it aloud to him once I’ve finished. My husband asked this of me following my very first spanking, but since then it’s only been for more serious offenses or when he senses resistance during correction. He aims to stamp out the possibility of any lingering resentment by having me explain in my own words exactly how I brought this down upon myself (not simply repeating the lecture he delivered). There’s now a small collection kept in a locked drawer, precious and sacred to us both as evidence of my growth under his care. Only once have I been sent to our bedroom to read them and reflect on where my current attitude would lead if I didn’t correct my course. His belt rack was hung on the closet door for additional inspiration. By the time he came up to check on me, I was full of tears and remorse. The brief surge of anger I’d felt earlier that day melted away as I was forced to remember how my rebellious tongue has caused our marriage harm in the past (mended only by my husband’s swift intervention). The shame stung, but it was effective.
I don’t know if it counts as a ritual, but this small action by my sweet husband never fails to make me feel loved, forgiven, and wonderfully cleansed. Our dining room chairs have lovely plush padding, but these days we take our meals in the breakfast nook where the spills from young children are easily wiped from high chairs, walls, and floors. When I am particularly tender, my man will carry a padded chair into the kitchen for me, scooting the hard-seated alternative out of the way, placing me in my “throne” with a kiss. This is when I know I’ve truly atoned in his eyes, displaying the proper degree of remorse and a desire to change for the better. The private, shared knowledge of my lingering soreness, the delicate care he provides to both my bruised ego and welted bottom, bind us together intimately. As I heal, I am remade once more under his wing, in a shape pleasing to him. Each time, my tongue becomes softer, my heart more humble, my pride no longer threatening. I am peaceful.
Aron, you share such wonderful insights and continue to be a rare voice in this world, sharing God’s true vision for holy, husband-led marriage. I am so thankful to my own husband for rewarding me with a few moments this afternoon to talk about the beauty of this lifestyle with your readers. (My life is made possible only through him!) I pray everyday that your words touch someone new and convince a wife to kneel, a husband to rule, a heart to pray for marital harmony. God bless!
Thank you, Sophia. I am touched by the beauty of your marriage, and your desire to serve your husband so fully. We have seen couples come to embrace headship and discipline through this website, and I am confident we will reach more. Thank you for sharing your answers. Writing down your apology to your husband is a very helpful ritual, I am sure. There is something in writing that is more solid and permanent than spoken words. It may help other women communicate their feelings more fully. Blessings to you and your household.
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