This is a description of a discipline session early in the marriage of an Indian couple I have enjoyed getting to know. I previously posted their article about how discipline works in their culture and religion. Among traditional Hindus wife spanking is extremely common and even expected, and even many less traditional ones still respect male headship in the home. Divorce is extremely rare among them. You will also notice a few interesting cultural differences in how discipline is applied. Please view those differences as a chance to learn from other people, who have been having successful marriages for a very long time.
You know the old saying when the cat’s not around, the mouse gets emboldened? You can say that about women too. My G-d! Yes, S_____ is a submissive girl by nature, but the temptation to disobey is there in every woman I think.
See, she was mentored by her grandmother to be an obedient wife. All well and good. With neither her grandmother nor me around (her parents and grandma have gone on a pilgrimage around the holy places of India now that all three daughters are married), the young lady got it into her head that she can do as she pleased I suppose. She frequently flouted my father’s authority and constantly disobeyed my mother. Every time my mother complained, I issued stern warnings to my wife on Facetime. She would behave for a day or two and then revert. I found this very strange as prior to my trip to ________, she had never been like this. Needless to say, I was quite displeased and annoyed. In _______, along with all the gifts I purchased for my wife and the rest of my family, I also bought two paddles, one long-handled and the other a shorter one.
I returned to India on the 30th of March to unhappy parents and an unruly wife. I spoke to S_____ and demanded to know what had gotten into her. For the first time in our marriage, she was quite rude. I was in no mood for this. I slapped her face twice, harder than I usually do. She immediately became contrite. Of course she was headed for a hard whipping, but before I started on her punishment, I wanted to get to the bottom of her bad behavior. I stripped her off her saree and petticoat. She was naked except for her blouse and bra. I gave her one more slap and twisted her ears as Indian parents often do (a common punishment for children). She was crying by then and trembling as well she should. She knew she was in big trouble. “Kneel” I commanded. She obeyed right away. Then I conducted my inquiry. It emerged that a number of her friends in college have been filling her head with all kinds of ideas.
My normally level-headed wife had allowed herself to be led astray by these friends of hers. For all her maturity, S_____ is still young and impressionable. In the absence of an authority figure to keep her firmly in line, she had started entertaining thoughts harmful to marriage and family. I shook my head and told her I was very disappointed in her. At this, she cried harder and fell at my feet and begged me to forgive her. “Of course I’ll forgive you, my darling. I love you,” I said. “But first, you’ll be punished. Understand?” “Y-y-yes sir. I-I’m sorry sir” I pulled up her head from the floor by her braid. I wasn’t particularly gentle as I wasn’t in the mood to show mercy. She was once again in the kneeling position. I took out the paddles and let her see them. Her eyes filled with apprehension, but she didn’t say anything. This punishment was going to be really harsh.
I asked her to bend over. She obeyed. I started with the belt, my favorite implement for discipline. I never count when I’m dishing out a whipping. I think I whipped her about sixty to seventy times. Several swats landed on her thighs. By the time I stopped, she was whimpering and lay bent over on the bed like a rag doll. However, I wasn’t finished with her. I told her to stay right where she was. I went out for an hour or so to calm myself down. I returned to find that she had not moved.
I told her I expect her to behave in a respectful manner to my parents irrespective of whether I was around or not. “Do you understand?” I asked in an uncompromising manner. “Y-yes, sir,” she whispered. “Louder, girl” “Yes, sir” she managed to say in a louder voice. I then told her I’m going to paddle her so that she never forgets this lesson. “You’re my wife. I’ll not tolerate unruliness and disrespect from you. Understand?” “Yes, sir. Sorry sir. P-please sir?” “Please, what, young lady?” “Please don’t use the paddle on me, sir” At this, I grabbed her braid and raised her head from the bed to look at me. “Who am I?” “M-my husband, sir” Her eyes were filling up once again. She knew what was coming. “And who are you?” “Your-your wife, sir” “Who do you belong to?” “To you, sir” I shook my index finger at her. “Do you have the authority to tell me what I should and shouldn’t do?” “N-no, sir” “Well?” I stared at her. She hung her head and whispered, “I’m yours, sir. I have done wrong. Please punish me as you see fit, sir” “Good girl.”
I then took the long-handled paddle and swatted her about thirty to forty times. It could have been a few more than that. I don’t know. This was her harshest punishment so far. Her bottom had bruises for quite a few days after that. Later that evening, I took her quite roughly in bed. I haven’t had any troubles with her since then. I’ve ordered her to cut off contact with all these so-called friends. She is allowed to talk to two of her friends. These women come from similar backgrounds to mine and S______. One is married and the other is engaged to be married in a couple of months. I won’t let her talk to any of her “modern” friends. Spanking is the best tool to resolve such issues. Talking would have gone on and on. Lecturing and spanking has brought her back in line immediately. It was you who said too much education ain’t good for a woman when I was entertaining ideas of further education for S_____.
es, I know she will settle down and mature in her role as a submissive wife. Her family has groomed her to be one. I’ll allow her to go out by herself in a few weeks. Right now, she needs to understand she can’t do as she pleases. She was never allowed to by her parents and I’m not going to start now. The harsh whipping got through to her in a way nothing else could. Sure, I’ve spanked her several times prior to this, but they were all pretty mild compared to this. Punishment befitting the crime, eh? I do have a reason for being extra-strict with her.
I have two older sisters and an elder brother. My sisters were both married off when they were in their late teens to early twenties. I’m 32. My older brother is 35. He fell in love with and married his colleague, a very career-oriented woman who is not from our caste (community). She doesn’t respect my parents, and makes them feel uncomfortable when they visit. Basically a typical independent feminist type.
Recently, my parents went to help them out when their second child was born. They were supposed to stay for three months, but returned within one. My brother is too p—y-whipped to put his wife in her place. I show her respect as she’s my sister-in-law, but I don’t really like the way she behaves. It’s up to me now to care for my parents in their old age. I’m a traditionalist at heart. I always wanted an obedient wife. I also expect her to treat my parents with respect and care for them as she would her own parents. When S_____ behaved in such a bad manner towards them in my absence, I flipped. I knew drastic action was needed to bring her back under complete control at once. I hit her harder than I had done on previous occasions, but not at full force. I would never do that.
S_____ has a submissive heart, but she’s still quite young and impressionable. Now that she is done with her studies, she need not go to college anymore. So those undesirable influences are minimized already. She knows she isn’t allowed to keep in touch with her so-called modern friends. For good measure, I’ve taken away her mobile phone. If she wishes to talk to her family and the two friends she’s allowed to be in touch with, she is free to use the landline, but she needs to ask permission first, either from me or if I’m not around, from my parents. If she sneaks behind my back, she knows the consequences would be immediate and serious. In my opinion, a young wife is no different from a child. She needs proper indoctrination and training. Every man ought to set limits and boundaries for his wife. When she emails you, please feel free to give her your opinion about the punishment as well. She knows and understands it was the right thing, but a further reinforcement of that won’t hurt.
I may need to travel to ______ at the end of May. I don’t want a repeat episode. I’ve made a few changes around the house since my return. First of all, I’ve asked my mother to stop the maidservant. S_____ now does all the housework, as well she should. Although she’s well-trained in these chores, my mother has a specific way of doing things. She’s now training S_____ to perform the chores according to her liking. If my mother is not happy with the way something has been done, she twists S_____’s ears or gives her a quick smack. S_____’s mother physically corrected all her daughters right up to their wedding day. No reason why my mother shouldn’t as well. In India, when a woman marries, she is duty-bound to obey her husband, his parents and elder siblings. Ever since I told my mother she has the authority to correct S_____, things between them are a lot better. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not some kind of monster who constantly beats his wife. Neither is my mother. I’m very affectionate towards my wife. But when she strays or disobeys, I have no hesitation in punishing her harshly. Every man has to do that. It’s a husband’s duty, not just his right.
By the way, because of the population explosion in India, the government encourages couples to stop after two kids. I don’t believe in that. S_____ and I will have as many children as God wishes to bless us with. No expense will be spared for the education of my sons.
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