Nearly anyone can figure out that a spanking in marriage involves a bare bottom. I imagine there are a few exceptional homes where clothing is included, but it would be hard to find. There are more than a few wives who wish they could keep that thing covered during discipline when they are anxiously awaiting one, and wish their husbands would let them keep some protection on. My wife has had many spankings from me, but she sometimes is still hesitant to remove the final items of clothing. But it would be hard to have an effective spanking without having to bare it, before you, well, have to bear it.
Spanking on the bare has several advantages besides making sure she feels the full sting of the punishment. Because the blows are not muted by anything, a husband is in full control of the process, more easily knowing where the range of mild, medium, and harsh blows are. Imagine trying to grasp the full range of an instrument when there is a mute attached. It is equally hard to be in control of your range of blows if she is wearing something during spanking. Having his eyes on her bottom also helps in several ways. First, he can observe the coloration, and recognize better when he’s reached the level of punishment he desires. He will see by her color, or by her stripes, if he’s delivering the sting he needs to. It may help him determine when to stop. Finally, seeing her skin helps in safety, as he can notice if any blows have come too hard, or caused unwanted abrasions. It would be reckless to spank blind.
Most couples I’ve spoken with choose either one of two approaches toward nudity. The first is to have the lady undress only from the waist down, to focus on the spot that is about to receive much attention. That is as much for her good, as well, since it gets her attention on what she is baring and why. The other approach (and no one says you can’t use both), is to have her completely naked, in a state for discipline that prepares her to sense her vulnerability, and complete belonging to her man. Everything is on display, as in the marriage bed, except for a somewhat different purpose.
You are free to have any number of twists to each approach. One common twist, which I sometimes use as well, is to allow her to leave on her panties until the very beginning of her spanking. She will undress to them, and then be lectured while they are still on. Once she goes over the knee, or over the bed, they come down or off. If her husband takes her panties down, there is a strong message of his control over her and over her discipline. He owns her backside. But she can be the one to remove them as well, on his command, as this allows her to participate in her correction, which she should be actively learning from anyway. As she takes them down she affirms his authority to correct her, the goodness of the discipline, and presents her body to her husband. Once the spanking is over you may want to pull them back up, or you may leave them down until the whole session is complete, and you have given her a talk afterward. This step then becomes the most meaningful in the process, as it is the trigger for the punishment to begin.
When I began with discipline in our marriage, I mostly stuck with the first practice. I’d have her prepare and wait for me undressed from waist down. I wanted her attention on the end of her about to be dealt with by her husband. It creates a clear sense that a spanking is coming, and nothing else. I wanted her mind on that. I started using the latter method on recommendation from husbands I’ve spoken with in the discipline community, who believe it is appropriate. I lean towards using that more often these days, because I like the sense that she knows she is completely in my hands, and that nothing is hidden from my view.
I suppose you could say a third method, though not as common, is simply to give an on-the-spot punishment, which involves little undressing ritual. As can be convenient, and speedy, he simply puts her in position, lifts up or pulls down the clothing he needs to to bare her bottom, and spanks her right there. You might fit this type in the first category, but often it just bares the bottom, and nothing else. I used to do this myself many yeas ago, and like it for its convenience. She just goes immediately bottoms-up when she needs it, and forget the ritual entirely. If this type of stripping carries much meaning — beyond its convenience — it’s that she learns her man can punish her at any time. She can end up in a punishment position in a moment. She can end up bottom bared in a moment. No matter what she is doing, or what clothing she has on, her wrong will be immediately dealt with.
Being bare carries much meaning. It has meaning personally, and biblically and can signify more than one thing. Most commonly in the Bible, being undressed signifies guilt and shame. Being punished by God is compared with being stripped of one’s garments. Having sin revealed is compared to the same. As clothing comes off, a wrong is being revealed. This is not merely a theological doctrine, but was recognized by the other cultures of that time. When the pagan king wanted to humiliate David’s servants, he not only shaved their beards, but cut their garments short to reveal their buttocks, and they had to walk all the way back like that. Anyone seeing it could recognize that as a sign both of shame, and of being defeated by another. They were forced to walk that way for many miles.
Today, women who dress in few clothes in public will find that the danger that comes from that lewdness and sin is real, as they present to general humanity what really belongs to their husband. They incite aggression, and unwanted attention. People talk of them more often in filthy ways. They become literally more vulnerable. Even in a very permissive culture as our own, there is embarrassment in being undressed, or in others seeing our private bodily domains. We still know to save that nakedness for special people. That knowledge is in our souls.
The nakedness a married couple has in bed is, in contrast, without shame. Being renewed in Christ, and being united in marriage, lets their bare bodies be at peace, where that openness and vulnerability is no longer dangerous, but is a function of their intimacy which is lived out every day. It does not bring harm anymore, but is righteous, and brings new life. The couple can gaze at the body of the other, and not see guilt, but see a creature made clean. An outside that reflects a brilliant and holy inside.
Stripping bare for discipline, you might say, takes us from one of those meanings of nudity to the other. It starts with the revealing of the wife for examination and correction. It reflects the wife having to bare her guilt, and make herself vulnerable, as she lets her insides be seen and worked on by her man. Yet by the end of the correction, and when she is restored by her husband, it returns to the beautiful and unashamed body we know in the light of Jesus. She is clothed again in righteousness. She is unashamed of being seen. She is whole and protected.
Undressing is a special part of the whole discipline process for this reason. As she strips off her apparel, she is dropping any sense of protection they give. She is letting critical eyes on her. The nakedness accentuates her shame for her behavior, and at being humbled. Her raised bare bottom signals her submissiveness to him. Just as her husband can see her bare body, he can see her guilt and bad intentions, and she will hope, see her good desire to make the matter right and her real sorrow for her actions. Her sincere desire to please him. These like so many things, lie within.
Nakedness also fits with discipline because of their marriage. Just as the wife undresses for the marriage bed to make love, she undresses now, but to be intimate and penetrated in another way. With words that will teach and correct her, and with a burning punishment that can bring tears from deep within her. The firmness of her husband in correction touches her deeply as intimacy does, and if done right, should be cleansing afterward. She really has been reached deep within. Being bare, and naked before her husband communicates that, more to her than to him. She is being laid bare, so she must be laid bare. It is not for pleasure, but something has been touched, and has been fixed within.
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