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You sometimes find people scratching their heads as to why spanking is such a sexual act, or trying to figure out why men love to smack some butt when they are making love to their wives. Where does this sex and spanking connection lie? There have probably been some extensive studies trying to come to an answer, and perhaps scientific experiments on monkeys, but it’s not really that hard to solve the mystery. Spanking is sexual because it is connected to some of the same forces as sex, and reflects much of the same relationship. Similar key factors are at play. For that reason, many men desire to take their wives after spanking them, and sex itself can be used as a wonderful tool in teaching a woman submission.
A husband who takes his wife frequently in bed is helping her to learn more how to be his woman, and how to be led by him. He teaches her by making love to her. A man shows his woman his strength, his power, his firm grip on her. The woman experiences his strength and learns to yield to it, be moved by it, be held down. His leadership is there throughout the entire act of making love, whether it is his manhood opening her up, or his arms wrapped around her, he shows he is mastering her each moment.
The man shows his power in bed not only by his brute strength and hardness. He shows it by his knowledge of his wife, of her body, and how she needs to be touched. Every tender kiss her gives her, or gentle stroke along her flesh shows he knows her, can bring her to ecstasy, and has her completely in his hands. The man never ceases to be in control. Even when he devotes his attention to giving her pleasure, he is firmly in control of her body, she can feel his grasp, as he leads her to give up all control to him. To his hands. His lips, To ecstasy.
A woman who is made love to frequently, will grow much in submission to her man, as well as in devotion to him. She becomes, by his manhood and his strength, accustomed to yielding to him. Being soft to his power is ingrained in her. The man who trains his woman this way will find she more easily submits the rest of the time. She has submitted in bed in the deepest way possible. It will be easier later when she has her clothes on. I’d even go so far as to say that bed he takes her in is like a microcosm of their relationship, of their union of life, emotion, mind, spirit. The power and yielding expressed in bed manifest the experience of their whole marriage. It is an expression of their unity. A consummation of it. And a tool in growing it.
For this reason a man should know he does not only lead his wife by making rules and enforcing them. He leads her always in everything. The sex act, and physical closeness in general, function to reinforce his leadership, and deepen her submission. He should be aware of this as he takes her in bed, and as he has her sexually serve him regularly. A woman may already have a clear mental idea of submission when she is married, and openly assent to it. However, learning can be another thing. It can take experience, and getting into shape. Even women who tend to be more submissive by personality, as my wife does, still need to grow in putting it into practice, in learning to put themselves under their husband, even those times they don’t feel like it. Training, especially sexual training, gives her repeated and powerful practice doing so. Her husband masters her. He knows her deeply. He knows every inch of her body, and makes it his alone.
Training Her with Commands:
A wife giving her body completely in marriage is normal and good. This giving of her body reflects her submission to her man, her femininity, her belonging to him. She gives sexually just as she gives in her soul, her words, and her actions. Giving her body is not unique to marriages that involve spanking, but is simply a normal part of two becoming one flesh. Man and wife belong to one another. There is no barrier between bodies. A wife fulfills her man’s desire.
A husband can use this complete giving of the body to enhance his wife’s submission, by training her to respond to a few commands. With commands, she will have to learn to be fully vulnerable to her lord, and fully available to him when he desires. She is his. Her man’s words may unlock her at any moment. This is one of the most immediate and effective ways to realize submission in your marriage.
One simple command that a wife learns to respond to is — Get on your knees. Naturally her man speaks this at an appropriate time — not while at the mall, probably — when they have at least a moment alone. It teaches her a submissive position — on her knees before her man — and usually leads to her submissive behavior, as her man usually will have her give head, and enjoy her mouth for a while. He may just send her to her knees so she gets used to the position too, but oral is the usual result. This free giving helps her deeply learn her belonging to him, and also to be secure in it. Her man is in control. She is fully his. She experiences his strength, and shows her beautiful yielding to it. She is his delight, and fulfills his desire.
Another useful training command is — Bend over. Even if they are not in the bedroom, and do not have the time to make love, he can find her alone and have her bend over. He may simply grab her and play with her from behind. He may choose to take her from behind as well. Either way, she learns to obey her man and fully give to him. Bending over is, like kneeling, a powerfully submissive position, perhaps even more so. It is a very vulnerable position as well. Moreover, it accentuates his command since she cannot see him without straining. The wife must present herself to him submissively, and sexually, and experience him taking whatever he wants. Her bottom and her sex are in his hands. It may just be a playful two minutes together because the children are in the other room, but it gives her a chance to know her place, and to feel his command deep inside her.
Lastly, no training would be complete without the command — Take off your clothes. What a useful and practical one as well. The immediate vulnerability of undressing, and of being a feast for her husband’s eyes, shape a woman to know her belonging and to know his control. She is looked at. Her flesh is on display. He may do with her whatever he desires. He may only enjoy her with his eyes for a while. He may have her turn around, or pose for him so his eyes can enjoy more fully. He may choose to take her and ravish her right there. A woman should know there is no barrier between her and her man. They are one. Clothing disappears in a second. He may see her flesh, take her, enjoy her any time he desires. She may not hide anything from him or hide behind a veil. It will be stripped away. He knows every inch of her body, every curve and crevice, and owns the whole thing.
I am sure there are men who develop more commands than this. That is fine. However, I think it is best to keep it simple, and that these three truly cover the basics. They will help a woman to learn inside what it means to belong, and to fully submit. The vulnerability and the physical acts themselves are a teaching tool. She will learn to respond better with training her sexually. She is learning, through body and soul.
Remember, a woman who submits to her husband is submitting to him sexually as well. There is no separating the two. She is giving her body, her sex, and every part of herself to her man. He takes them and claims them all.
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