I want to expand on what I mention in my introduction — why do I use domestic discipline and why do I recommend it to others? Or to drop the contemporary lingo, I’d like to explain why it’s good to spank your wife. I want to get into the benefits. Let me talk a little about the benefits for my home here and our marriage, although I will get into the benefits others see in the practice elsewhere, or how women feel they benefit. Women may in fact be the most frequent promoters of wife spanking online, at least in the reading I have done, and from what I have seen on forums. Here I will focus primarily on my own experience and understanding.
The strongest reasons for me are that wife spanking keep the peace in the home very well, and makes sure there is harmony that might otherwise be disrupted by arguing or strife. If my wife has been dismissive of her responsibilities, or if she has been argumentative, spanking very quickly bets her back where she needs to be. When I have corrected her over the knee for irresponsible behavior, I will see almost immediately she takes care of what she needs to do. The same is true for bad habits, such as lateness, which she still had when we were married. She learned to leave this childish habit behind nearly completely by learning that she would be spanked and she had to endure several early in our marriage for this reason. With minor and passing problems I certainly use talking and verbal correction, but where I see stronger bad habits or bad attitudes, I prefer giving her a spanking, as this experience seems to get through more powerfully than talking, and can be a prime motivator. It will light a fire under her.
A spanking is also good because it helps a wife with her submission, and with rightfully respecting her man. A conversation does not do this so well, or so deeply. A woman being spanked over her husband’s knee, while also verbally corrected, knows who she is submissive to very quick, as she experiences that submission through the spanking. She also experiences her man’s strength, and his firm judgment, and gets a stark reminder of the kind of respect he needs to receive. He is clearly on top. She is clearly under his authority. That short experience instills in her submission better than a million conversations would. The humbling of being undressed for a critical, non-sexual purpose, the loss of pride in being bent over in a submissive position, the firm and corrective words of her husband, and the pain of the spanking on her bottom work together extremely well. I have found that my wife is extremely responsive shortly after a spanking, even though she takes some time to calm down from her tears, The next day she has a gentleness about her, we share closeness and affection, and she responds to my words more promptly than before. She listens closely. I do not have to tell her things twice. She is soft and subdued, and has learned again to honor my words and honor me as lord of the home. Few conversations do this. When there has been bad behavior, a spanking accomplishes if very well. The humbling, the vulnerability, the verbal instructions, and the pain work together and get her back into shape.
To expand on that, very many people who practice domestic discipline would say it reinforces both the man’s leadership and his wife’s submission. That order may naturally be there in the marriage, and it may be there in the partners’ personalities as well, but like any practice, those roles can become slack at times, and half-hearted. Both husband and wife sometimes half-step their roles. Wife spanking puts things back in order, and and firmly establishes that necessary vertical pillar. The man’s command and firmness. The woman’s softness, gentleness, yielding, and submission. Of course those two roles are based on something in nature as well – our masculinity and femininity. Spanking gives energetic life to both of those natural elements, the man knowing more clearly his need and ability to take charge, and the woman embracing fully her obedience to him, and the high honor he deserves. Other forms of discipline, while they may have some benefit, do not accomplish this or even come close. Spanking works very well on the attitude, the behavior, and the overall positions of man and wife.
Another benefit, which I suppose is related to what I’ve just mentioned, is that a spanking puts a problem fully in the past. If she has been disrespectful, or disobedient, this is not something we will feel bad over, or argue about for some long period of time. No. That may be the case in countless marriages, but it is not in ours. If she has done something warranting punishment, there is no bickering or arguing or resentment. She gets a clear correction, goes over my knee and gets spanked, and we do not talk about it or think about it again. There is peace and the problem is forgotten. That short period of trembling, crying, and hardship is far superior to screaming and yelling. It is far superior to a damaged relationship. It deals with an offense objectively, delivers punishment, inspires an apology from her and then better behavior. We don’t hear about it ever again after that. Some people think of spanking as inhumane, but the opposite is true. It is more humane than the other options, when it is warranted and beneficial.
Those are the reasons I brought spanking into our marriage from the start, and the clear benefits I’ve witnessed now repeatedly. I have never regretted it. If you asked others who practice domestic discipline, they would likely list some of the same good things about it, and surely add a few more of their own. More than a few are those who’d say it supercharged their sex life, but that has never been the main motivator for me. Disciplining my wife betters her behavior. It helps keep her soft and submissive to me. It reinforces and strengthens our roles of leadership and submission, and it puts any friction and conflict clearly in the past. It helps keep the marital relationship peaceful, productive, and smooth. I would expect you’d see some of the same rewards if you use spanking in your own marriage, and I’d like to see more couples use it. I want you to do well, and have the same rewards we have.
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