Most husbands make sure that a discipline session reinforces their authority, and their wife’s submission in more ways that just the lecture and spanking. Each husband may have his own practices, or rituals, but nearly all make sure that reinforcement besides the spanking is there. The way he speaks to her, the way she needs to respond, her position, and more, all matter in making the discipline session more than just a spanking punishment for her infraction, but a trip to deeper submission, and a way to return to her rightful place. These practices create the environment for the spanking itself.
Most wives will need to address their husbands with a sign of his higher authority, or strength, with “sir” probably being the most common. Others will choose “master” or “daddy” but either way the language communicates his headship over her, and her own subordination. She has to address her husband by a term of authority, and answer questions with the same term. This is a constant reminder to her. I have my wife use “sir” during discipline because I like it, and also because the term “master” carries such connotations as inhuman forms of slavery, and the disordered bdsm world. In principle, we could choose to use terms like this daily, but it would seem awkward in this culture, and not important enough to be worth standing out in such a glaring way. So the average husband keeps those terms for a time of discipline. In a better world, I believe it would be good to use them normally though, and I hope to see that better world soon.
Some of the discipline session may also be spend in a submissive position, that of kneeling before her lord. I will regularly have my wife kneel before the bed to wait for me before discipline, and also deliver part of my lecture to her while she kneels before me. Needing to lower herself physically reemphasizes her need to lower herself positionally below her man, and also lower herself in accepting discipline, which itself requires true humility. She needs to look up to see her man, and sees his figure over her, and his instructions come from above.
The nudity of the disciplined wife also helps establish her subjection to her man. She is nearly always partly, or completely undressed. She needs to experience that physical vulnerability that comes with nakedness, a vulnerability common both when her man delivers punishment, and also when he takes her in bed. It establishes her complete belonging to her man as well. She has nothing to hide her body from his gaze and correction, whereas he is fully dressed, examining her and correcting her. She belongs to him. He will do as he pleases.
The act of participation in her punishment is one that performs a similar function. It is normal to have a wife aid the husband in his correction of her, by bringing him the instrument, for example, or by holding it for a while. This both show she assents to his authority and her correction, and at the same time time lets her think about the consequences for her actions that are coming. I will sometimes have my wife hold the paddle while I lecture her, and then have her hand it to me immediately before putting herself over my knee or over the end of the bed. Many husbands have rituals like this and see how it strengthens the character of the punishment session.
The use of corner time in many spanking sessions also plays a role in establishing his authority and her subjection. True, corner time accomplishes other things, such as giving her time to think about her correction, or to calm down after a difficult punishment, but it also helps place her back into her role of submission to him, in its humbling nature, and the man’s control of it. This is especially true when it is after the spanking, as standing facing the corner will be showing to her man her bright red, and aching backside. She is standing and thinking about her wrong, while she is also showing her bottom to him, which if anything is a sign of shame, and of being vanquished.
These are some extremely common forms of emphasizing authority, and reestablishing it. You will find there are others. I have heard of couples which use special articles of clothing for discipline, though I believe this is more common in bdsm. It is an outfit that they immediately come to connect with correction, and this strong connection helps their minds connect with it as well. Other men make sure to give discipline in a somewhat different tone of voice, choosing a more serious, or commanding tone for it. I don’t think I could do this even if I wanted to, though I do try to make sure to emphasize with my voice the seriousness of the wrong, as well as my disappointment. My speaking is generally measured and calm. The connection to a tone of voice, especially when made repeatedly, can let a woman know this is no time to mess around. He is not playing. She needs to respond as to immediate and important commands. She knows from his tone she is being corrected, and this helps her respond as such.
After the discipline, some husbands have their ladies perform oral sex on them to show their thanks and to show that they are back to being submissive, and serving him well. A woman can powerfully experience her submission this way, and communicate it to her man. It allows her to show him that she is stepping back fully into her lower place and will work hard for his desire. It may be an act that some women dream of doing, and want to do for their man after being spanked, or one that others find unpleasant, or hard on their pride. It still functions after discipline as a reestablishment of the marriage order. It brings things to a peaceful end in a way they both will remember.
These are only some of the commonest forms of reinforcement you will see in spanking marriages. I believe using rituals such as kneeling, using terms of honor, and having the wife bare will help you in giving and receiving the lesson during punishment. They are not absolutely necessary, but do much to create the right environment, and set the tone to strengthen the authority and submission that exists. Couples certainly develop their own unique rituals as well. Feel free to use whatever has meaning to you. I will post later on how love is also reinforced during what is otherwise a harsh period of time. Authority and discipline not only coexist with love, but are rooted thoroughly in it.
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