One common question I get when discussing marital discipline is what position I will have my wife in to spank her. There are plenty of good articles about this online, or at least which touch on it. The position you spank your wife in mostly is a matter of preference, but it can also be a matter of practicality, when it comes to some instruments working better with certain positions. Overall, I don’t think it changes much of the quality of discipline, and you will find you can choose whichever is best for you.
In terms of preference, I do have a leaning toward spanking over the knee. I’d say I use that position the majority of the time with my wife in recent years. It is special because of the closeness involved, the nearness of all her body to me, the warmth. As I spank her I can feel her breathing or her squirming as I spank. I can feel when she finally goes limp and fully accepts it. The closeness attaches a sense of tenderness to the punishment, so I will feel more connected to her and naturally tender toward her as I spank.
Another common position I use is to have her bent over the edge of the bed, usually with a pillow under her belly to lift her bottom up. Similarly I’ll have her kneeling on the edge of the bed, bottom up and shoulders down. It is a very submissive position that makes the bottom easy to strike and makes sure she has to present it to me. It is a position that says in an instant — I am under your control. Here is everything you want. The position is colder than having her over my knee, but sometimes a certain degree of distance can be helpful in being firm, and in her having the right respect for my authority.
Naturally, some degree of preference may come down to how you desire to see your wife. It is naturally attractive to see her body and enjoy it. I am not ashamed to desire the chance to see my wife’s body, to soak it in fully in a context apart from lovemaking. It might please me to see her positioned one way especially. To see her backside in the air, or her thighs, or her back bent just so. If I appreciate seeing her delicate body in one position, I may prefer that one.
The main practical effect of her position is that it affects what instrument you will choose. If you have your wife over the knee, that will make swinging instruments, or longer ones difficult to use. I prefer not to bother with the belt, for example, when she is OTK. It’s lots of work with little reward. If you own a cane, of course, you’d never use it in that position. You would want to use a shorter instrument. That might be a small paddle, hairbrush, or the loopy, all of which you can spank her with easily and firmly. Many men spank with the hand in this position.
When she is bent over the bed, in contrast, you have more choices. You CAN use the shorter ones if you wish, but it becomes natural to use the longer ones. The belt works best if she is bent over, or kneeling on the end of the bed. It can have its full swing that way, and you use more of its length. A larger paddle can be used. Or the cane. Apart from choice of instrument, I find that having her bent over also leads me to take my time, to slow down in lecturing her. I will stroll back and forth, and spend time delivering strokes from both sides.
You will find recommendations of other spanking positions. I haven’t often used more than I just described. Some husbands prefer to spank their wives in the diaper position, with her on her back and her knees pulled up or her legs pulled up. It is supposed to invoke more shame, as well as vulnerability. I’ve never used it. I think the other positions have plenty of the same qualities, but it does seem unique since you could have consistent eye-to-eye contact during the discipline. If that is your goal, you may try it.
As you practice discipline, and lead your wife with verbal correction and spanking, you will find what methods suit you. I’ve never heard of a position that was necessary or that was ineffective. You choose what is best and what you are more comfortable with. It is, as I say, a matter of taste and practicality. It becomes ingrained into how you do things over time, and as you repeat it, the position itself may help either you or your wife get into the mindset of correction. Like other qualities or rituals of your discipline system, it may help you reinforce your roles and communicate what you need. It comes down to you, as the head of the home, to choose.
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