I can never emphasize enough the importance of the husband guiding his wife with words. This goes for giving clear instructions, encouragement, and praise. It also includes providing some amount of correction verbally. He should know he has this tool to use when keeping the home in order. That’s why I recommend using formal verbal corrections as a proper form of discipline, coming with their own session and disciplinary procedure. This is because a woman can flourish from her man’s verbal guidance. It’s also because there are corrections serious enough for a formal talk, but not serious enough for a spanking. Not all men need to use them, but I believe you’ll find they are a helpful tool if you do.
A verbal correction of the formal kind is not a few passing words. This is not a gentle correction in the moment, or a warning of a possible spanking. It is a period of verbal guidance. It may come as a result of a minor infraction — however that is defined in your home — or as a result of a general need for improvement in a certain area. I’ve given my wife these talks when I believed a spanking was not called for, but correction was. You probably know the kind of situations I am speaking of, if you have practiced discipline for some time. In fact, the sound spankings you give her will make your words carry more weight, since she knows she is punished for stepping outside of them. These talks come hand in hand with the rest of your correction.
When I give a verbal correction, many of the disciplinary procedures are there. My wife knows she needs to be naked, and will kneel before me. I will ask her questions about her behavior, and also lecture her about where she went wrong, and what she needs to focus on better. She’ll need to affirm to me she understands and is going to follow my guidance. She will affirm her full submission and belonging to me. Verbal corrections can also include her sexual submission when you are done. Serving you sexually affirms her better attitude you will be seeing in the future. It allows her to show you her gratefulness for the guidance you give her.
There are spanking husbands who would have none of verbal corrections. It’s spanking or nothing for them. I understand this approach and respect it. However, I see in the full panorama of leading your woman’s behavior, that learning to respond to your words is a part of learning to follow and obey you. It’s a part of the rich tapestry of your embrace together. Your words direct her and correct her, and she should be intimately acquainted with how you deal with her verbally and know how to respond appropriately to you. For the more urgent lessons, your words will come with a strapping also, and she will listen most attentively if she did not before.
As I teach elsewhere, a woman who only knows to learn from a spanking is not deeply submissive yet. A man who has to rely on the strap has much to learn. Your wife’s soul needs to be soft to your words. She should be able to receive them deep in her being, and respond with a “yes sir,” as she would during any discipline. Your demeanor and your words should carry authority with her, and teach her to take her role seriously as a submissive wife. They guide her, and put her into her right position. That is authority and verbal discipline. A good wife will listen.
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