If you are preparing to use discipline in your marriage, or a just curious, you can easily imagine that you will be seeing some tears and crying as you punish her. This is the case for most couples, and it is the case in my marriage as well. But it is one thing to expect tears, and another to deal with them, and learn not to be afraid of causing your woman to cry as you correct her. You’ll be handling tears up close and personal.
Many people are taught in this culture to never strike a woman, or to make her cry, but if you see the value in marital discipline, you are obviously prepared to dismiss this cultural attitude. A good loving discipline is a reason to strike a woman’s bottom, and also cause her to cry abundantly. One thing you need to know is that tears are a natural, and good part of her experience of punishment. Do not fear them. Continue to spank her while she cries, and until you are satisfied you have delivered an appropriate punishment.
A woman being spanked and lectured by her husband will cry for various reasons. She may cry over feeling ashamed she had to bare herself and had her behavior criticized, even by words alone. It’s very humbling. She may cry because she truly feels bad over her behavior, and over letting her husband down. Ideally, they should be sincere tears of regret. But they won’t always be.
A woman may also cry over the pain of a spanking, especially if she is new to it, or over a desire to be close to her man who now has her in a frustrating position and is not showing her affection. She wishes she could be close to him and please him again. She may long for his arms, and his acceptance. A woman may also burst into tears over whatever stress or worries built up in her soul that week, and now, in the incredible loss of control, and the forceful chastisement, all her stress is coming out of her. Whatever the reason, crying is often good for a woman, and is usually a good sign during a spanking. It is a sign you are definitely getting through to her, both body and soul, which is exactly what you want. You are working on her mind and heart with your words, and at the same time delivering a message deep inside her through the spanking. Both of those can bring her tears.
Continue to spank until you reach the point of desired severity, and of seeing regret on her part. You should see a softness to your words and to your will. You do not stop any earlier or later because of tears. During the harsher punishments, I will surely continue quite some time with hard smacks to the bottom after the tears begin. She will be quivering, in tears, and breathing heavily by the end. If she is having a truly hard time with the correction, you may pause and speak with her, to assure her of your love as you correct her. You may assure her things will be okay and she is always your treasure. But you do not end the spanking.
That willingness to do what is painful in the moment, for the sake of building her up in the long run, is a part of love. This is the same woman you think highly of, and speak highly of. It is the same woman you talk with, laugh with, and kiss fondly. You are taking her down a peg to lift her up. She has learned she cannot rebel, and she has learned the consequences of her wrong. She has learned how completely she is in your hands, and how she needs to follow your lead. Many would be sad to see a woman spanked to tears, and sobbing deeply, but it is great healing in the long run. For her and for your marriage.
After the spanking, and after she calms down, she will be more at peace. I don’t plan to speak much of aftercare here, but it is good to give her time to finish crying when you are done, such as in the corner. Then, when she’s able to talk more easily, you can finish with your discipline session. Have an idea from the start of what the spanking should be like and stick to it. Be careful to see when you have taken her to the point of contrition, and softness to you. It is your decision how long and hard the spanking needs to be. Do not be moved by tears.
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